Via Fox 31:
Chris Atkins leads a life that might be stranger than any episode of “The Maury Povich Show.”
The daytime talk show host has made a living out of revealing DNA test results to squabbling couples, but Atkins already knows DNA has proven he’s not the father of his ex-wife’s daughter, who was 2 1/2 years old when the couple divorced.
But since the truth didn’t come out until the girl was 11 and his name remains on the birth certificate, he is legally obligated to keep paying child support.
“It doesn’t make any sense to me,” said Atkins, who hasn’t had contact with the now-15-year-old girl in four years.
The cuckold in question
The 48-year-old said he should be allowed to maintain visitation with a girl he considered his daughter or if not, be allowed to stop paying $730 a month in child support and health insurance.
“I just want my daughter, but I can’t even see her, but yet I’m still paying child support. And the biological father has been found and he gets to spend time with her. I don’t get nothing,” Atkins said.
He accused his ex-wife Lori Lonnquist of ignoring court custody orders that grant him visitation while still collecting child support.
When asked if she was being greedy, Lonnquist said, “Maybe, but I don’t feel bad about it, I really don’t.”
Lonnquist insisted Atkins abandoned any relationship with her daughter when he learned she wasn’t biologically his. Atkins denied that and said Lonnquist refused to facilitate visits.
“I went to court and I said ‘I’m not seeing my daughter, but I’m still paying.’ (The judge) said ‘What do you want me to do arrest her?’ And I said ‘Yes sir, something.’ He said ‘It’s out of my hands.’”
When asked if she was taking advantage of the situation, Lonnquist responded, “Maybe so, but that’s also not on me. My kid doesn’t want to see him. She wants nothing to do with him.”
Lonnquist said she would agree to stop collecting child support from Atkins if he would agree to terminate his parental rights.
Denver family law attorney Ron Litvak said Lonnquist’s suggestion is not a realistic option.
“It`s very rare that a court will ever allow someone to terminate their parental rights unless someone else is willing to step into that role. The courts are not usually going to do that,” he said.
The most obvious “someone” would be Logan Doolen, the girl’s biological father. But the Aurora man said he has no intention of stepping to the plate.
Doolen said he feels bad for Atkins, but “on the flip side, if I would have to pay child support that would be messed up too.”
Lonnquist said she doesn’t think it would be right for her to go after Doolen for child support.
“Because he has his own family, he has his own life. I don’t think that’s fair to come onto somebody when they didn’t know for 11 years that they didn’t have a kid and say ‘Hey, by the way, you’re going to pay child support for a kid that you didn’t know was yours.’”
Atkins said he only learned the truth when Lonnquist told him she wanted to legally change her daughter’s last name because she was getting remarried.
Atkins refused to agree to the name change and that’s when he said Lonnquist told him the girl wasn’t really his anyway.
“So the alarms went off and we had a DNA test done and she’s not my biological daughter that I raised for 11 years,” Atkins said.
After Atkins learned the truth, he tried to submit the DNA test to an Arapahoe County judge, but the family law judge refused to accept the evidence because Atkins, who represented himself at the time, didn’t know the legal rules for submitting evidence.
When Atkins came back later with an attorney, his appeal was denied because the judge said he had already been given his opportunity to submit the DNA results.
“You know, I don’t want pity, I just want everybody to know this is happening. It’s not right, it is not right,” said a frustrated Atkins, who is now on the legal hook to keep paying child support until the girl turns 19.
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Man Must Pay $30,000 Child Support For Someone Else’s Kid
Imagine a story that starts in 1987. Unbeknownst to you, your ex-girlfriend fraudulently claims you are the father of her child to “earn” welfare payments. In 1991, you realize for the first time that you’re a “dad” because a cop has pulled you over and says you’re a deadbeat parent who owes thousands in child support. Meanwhile, your scheming ex has received thousands in taxpayer funds as a result of her hideous lie.
Oh, but it gets worse! You’re incarcerated on another matter and a court server falsifies a document to make it look as if you refused to sign a court summons about the so-called child support debt. But how could you have? You were in jail. Once released from prison, you’re unable to track down the mother who’s your ex and the court-provided address for her is the wrong one.
You finally find your alleged baby mama in 2013 and a DNA test proves that you are not the father, and the woman freely admits she took you for a ride. Worse still, the real father is and has been involved in the now adult kid’s life.
Now guess what? You’re about to meet a judge with a broom so far up her ass that it’s touching both her spinal cord and the moon. And she’s making you pay $30,000 in backdated child support to that scamming ex of yours. All while falsely impugning your character and rubbing pounds of salt into your festering emotional and financial wounds.
Behold! A terrible human being named Kathleen McCarthy.
Meet a truly unlucky man
Thankfully for you, a casual observer, the man in this case, and it’s a very, very real case, is named Carnell Alexander, a resident of Detroit. The details of the situation are truly gut-wrenching   .
“I am outraged that Mr. Alexander for two and a half decades failed to take this matter seriously,” bellowed Judge Kathleen McCarthy, who is now the leading contender for Bitch of the Century for her psychopathic condemnations.
McCarthy’s “outrage” stems from Alexander’s inability to appeal the paternity and child support issues earlier, as legally required within three years. Yet given the two massive frauds of both the ex and the server, not to mention Alexander’s poverty and deprived education, it’s hard to share her sense of being offended if you haven’t been sniffing gasoline for a year.
The reason we have lawyers is because most people, understandably, lack the requisite legal knowledge in an increasingly complex and technical world. And the cost of seeking this knowledge through an attorney is usually prohibitive for the most upper middle-class families, let alone a poverty-stricken African-American from the Detroit area.
News reports allege that Alexander has but an eighth grade education. Even if he were college-educated, the idea that he should be held responsible for a welfare-scamming ex, a forgery-loving server and the false address information provided by the court system itself is as fanciful as the Philadelphia 76ers going on a 30 week winning streak.
Blame where no blame exists
Importantly, again, Alexander was destitute for much of the time since the birth of the child. At one stage he had been released from prison and didn’t have a penny to his name. Inasmuch as he has made some poor life choices in other areas, an indigent person such as him has committed neither a fraud nor another injustice worthy of McCarthy’s disdain and inhumane vitriol.
We cannot blame McCarthy for the law itself, which often rules squarely and dispassionately against common sense and any shred of fairness. But judges routinely, through what is known as obiter dicta, opine on aspects of the law not central to the determination of the case, which is called the ratio decidendi. For example, U.S. District Court Judge Orlando Garcia described the future legalization of gay marriage as a march towards equality, but was still forced to enter a stay upholding the present one-man, one-woman law.
Obiter dicta, which are often phrased sympathetically towards the losing party or side, can be found across all forms of law, even in the most banal commercial cases.
If Judge McCarthy had said her hands were tied, someone aware of a judicial officer’s limitations could understand her position and defend it based on the separation of powers. She is, after all, only there to interpret the law. But the draconian way in which she treated Alexander, a victim of two gargantuan moral, if not criminal frauds, is beyond the pale and evinces a clearly anti-male bias in her reasoning. The mother and ex, a professional scam artist and clear sadist, received nothing of the same rebuke.
…and the welfare and other frauds it inspires.
Men are fourth-class citizens in family courts
As you must already know, Alexander’s plight is far from the first not only unfair but moronic anti-male family court debacle. Take the older case of Ari Schochet. His court-ordered alimony and child support payments were astronomical, but affordable when he was earning the magical sum of $1 million per annum. But when the economy and his business both tanked, funds were harder to come by.
The lifetime nature of his alimony meant that the rate was locked in, irrespective of how much he was earning on an ongoing basis in years subsequent. Consequently, he frequently found himself in jail for “missed” payments based on his formerly huge but now vastly depleted income.
The only plus here is that Carnell Alexander’s loss and humiliation over nearly three decades will shine further light on a hysterical and virulently anti-male family legal process. In the meantime, let’s hope and pray that the man finally begins to receive the support and solace so long denied to him.
Men Do Not Get A Choice In Having A Child
Do you prefer raw dog sex to using a condom? I see everybody’s hand up.
Are you absolutely terrified of getting some random one night stand pregnant, then being stuck with a shitty mother for your children? I see the hands again.
Is a decent chunk of the reason you commit to a girl so that you can ditch the condoms? Yup, hands in the air again.
Can you trust your girlfriend, wife, or committed partner to not try to get pregnant without your knowledge?
This is one of my best friends whom I’ve known forever. They’ve been married for about a year and a half now, dated for a year and a half prior to that (give or take). Last September, they had their first child. Then, in February, they were pregnant again. Their children will be just over a year apart.
It was, by all means, an “accident.”
And by accident, I mean on his end. Apparently when a woman is breast feeding, doctors give them a lower dosage of birth control and warn the women that they should use other forms of contraception as it is a very low dose. My friend’s wife neglected to tell him this, and here he is with child #2 right around the corner. There is no doubt in my mind that this was a manipulatively planned scenario by my friend’s wife. Granted I’m not too fond of her to begin with, but she’s 37 and the clock was ticking on the first child, and now it’s up to hyper speed with this second one.
This friend makes over six figures and still has to work overtime to make the bills.
This guys sits next to me at work. They had their first child a little over a year and a half ago. He just told me this week that his wife decided to go to the doctor and take out her IUD—and didn’t bother to tell him for two months.
When he found out, he was understandably pissed—which set her off. Now he’s pulling out.
Every. Damn. Time.
Obviously, this makes no sense, but apparently she screamed obscenities at him and said, “I want another child! You are depriving me of the ability to have another child! You are horrible!”, etc., etc. They are having all sorts of issues about this now in their marriage.
Notice how all of her statements involve the words “I” and “Me.” Not once does she think about her husband, their current (stable, but not comfortable) financial situation, and hell—THE OTHER CHILD THEY HAVE.
Clearly, their oldest has grown out of his “trophy baby” stage, and this woman needs another baby to show off and have people go goo-goo-ga-ga at.
This friend and his wife have a combined household income of over $120k+ but still are renting an apartment and not saving any money.
We’re 2-for-2 so far, which you could call a coincidence. But 3-for-3? No way.
Another work friend. Their first child is also about a year and a half old. His situation is much like Friend #1. After the birth of their first child, his wife went on a low dosage of birth control. Another disclaimer about this birth control at low doses is that you must breast feed in order for it to be remotely effective. Well, their son is inconsistent with that—but she never told him that little caveat about the birth control.
In addition, she also switched birth control brands and stopped taking the pill for a few weeks—again, never mentioned it to him.
Now, he got lucky and she’s not pregnant. But they did have a scare or two. Supposedly, she has not flat-out said anything about wanting another child, and seems to be more sane than the other two.
This friend works and makes about $70k. His wife does not work.
Let my friends serve as a lesson for you gentlemen out there dating girls who want kids. Be careful. I realize condoms suck, but it doesn’t seem like a bad option, to be honest, considering the alternative. At least keep an eye on her birth control supply, and make sure her IUD is secure when you’re fucking raw.
Unfortunately, there is no other option. Sure, you can try one of the male birth control pills cooked up in a lab in India, get invasive surgery on your balls in the form of a vasectomy, or you’re simply at the mercy of a woman who will be hormonal and lack any good sense of judgment. On top of that, you can almost guarantee she’ll have her own selfish agenda, with no regard whatsoever for you or any current children she may have.
Perhaps, someday, things will change.